Keeping Emotions in Check

What?! Keeping your emotions in check while going through infertility issues? Is that even possible?

So this post might not provide any amazing insight or revelation on how to keep your emotions in check, but I'll do my best to figure something out. Maybe I'll teach myself one or two things :)

Yes, as many of you know, I do let my emotions take over. Sometimes too often, but I'm a crier and that's okay. Emotions might be the hardest thing to deal with throughout this process, maybe even harder than knowing we have infertility issues. Again, that's okay because who would we be without our emotions :) Chris has been a trooper dealing with my ups and downs and more to come. And it has been great to be together through this process helping each other get through it one step at a time. We're still married, and that's amazing. Having scheduled sex for almost two years now has been great for the marriage :) Who wouldn't love that, right? (I hope you are seeing the sarcasm written all over this)

I wish I had words of encouragement or the answer to keeping the marriage intact, but I don't. Chris and I are extremely stubborn, and it's been a bumpy ride. But I wouldn't change a thing. Through all the fights, tears and laughs I think it's only helped that we just lay it all out on the table. We can definitely tell when each of us are in a funk, and going through this together has helped us both better know what makes each other happy. Bring it on because after the dust has settled, we seem to get better after each fight. For all the couples out there going through this, it is okay. Fighting is okay (well don't beat anyone up of course) - arguing is healthy and I truly believe you will learn something new about each other after each struggle. Don't think it's the end because of the arguments.

I'm going to try and come up with my top three ways to get through this crap:

1. Talk, Talk, and TALK some more.

Talk to whoever will listen or even not listen. I would probably have been admitted to a psch ward if I did not talk to my friends and family about our issues. There was no way we could've kept this to ourselves. Also, by talking to others, we have learned so so so so much about infertility and to better handle our situation. Tell your friends and family how you feel. It feels much better afterwards! And double bonus is that they better understand how you are doing.

2. Internet

Okay, my husband doesn't agree with this one I'm sure, but in moderation it's great. It is possible to stop googling about every weird feeling in your stomach or crazy thing happening in your lady region. I didn't think it was, but it is. It's a phase, and I'm hear to tell you that you will make it through the crazed google everything about pregnancy on the internet. This is what helped me: Chris (having someone there to make you stop), and find one site. One site is all you need. I've talked about it before, and I love Resolve. It has so much info all in one spot and appeals to me. If you are going to google anything, it would be to find that one site. One site!!

3. Laugh

Oh my goodness - try and make every crappy thing you are going through into a joke. Seriously - get gross! Make people laugh. We have infertility issues - so, I'm not a different person because of it. Kinda feels like it, but that's okay. There has been many months where I've had more ultrasounds via the lady region with the prong stuck up my hoo hoo than I've had sex. Awesome, right?! Oh and if you are going to do ovulation tests - go ahead and spend too much money on the digital one with the smily face. It's awesome. Sometimes the highlight of the week is waiting for that smily face looking at us telling us it's time to make some whoopy!! It lightens the mood, and makes waiting for ovulation a little bit more fun.

Okay - another long post. But I hope you had fun. Remember to keep those emotions in check! NOT!!!

Love you all!